I know i’ve stressed about this matter on previous tfls, to encourage go out and do the things that you want to do. But lately, i’ve been feeling most powerful about things i want to conquer. After all, the only thing that’s stopping is, is just us. Our fear of failure and rejection.

As a kid, i was very introvert, shy and always unsure about my actions and words. But people who knew me, knew that in reality, deep down, i was nothing like that. I just had to let go. Whenever i would go to my dad for an advice, he would always say “i have never regretted the things that i did, i only regret that things that i didn’t”. Although i knew that phrase would hunt me for life, for all the things that i would regret in the future because of my fear, it took me just till this year to keep it close in my thoughts.

Yes, i’ve stressed you out about how we only got one life to live, and we should go for everything we want now. Really, what do you have to loose? That’s what i’ve asked myself about quite a lot of things this week. What DO you have to loose? Once you realise that it’s really nothing, it’s easier to conquer your fears and go for the things you honestly want to do.


For the bloggers / freelancers: you shouldn’t wait for the big websites, magazines and companies to notice you. You should go after them. A simple letter of who you are, what you do, and how you can contribute. The least thing they’ll do, is ignore your email. The best thing is to reply, reject you, but your work will have been seen by them. So at least they know who you are – you’ve made the first contact. The awesome thing? You get to collaborate.


The past month i’ve been contacting some really awesome people to guest post while i’m gone in July (hopefully August too). At first, i would postpone sending the emails, feeling really stressed about it – honestly don’t know where the big deal is. But there was nothing to be afraid of. Instead, i got to introduce myself, and get to know some cool creatives. The awesome thing? i got to have great guest posters, that you won’t want to have me back 🙂


Personal life: be honest with yourself and others. Say the things you want to say, no reason to hold words back. Do the things you want to do, no reason to suppress your actions. It just feels liberating.


Graphic layout and illustration by Corina Nika

  • Can I just tell you how much I love this series? Awesome advice darling!

  • Love this advice! Thank you for always being so inspiring!

  • Bri

    this sounds just like me. i was painfully shy growing up and i'm still so scared of … well, a lot of things, but rejection is definitely one of them. thanks for this little pep-talk! it's definitely a kick in the butt for me 🙂

  • yes, yes, and more yes.

  • Such good advice!

  • This is an amazing post! It sums up exactly how I feel at the moment. I am just starting on my own as a graphic designer freelance, and I am so scared! I also started writing about my experience, it works as a stress relief a little 🙂

  • I'm booking marking this for when I need a pep talk. Freelancing has been really difficult for me thus far. I feel like I never know where to start. Thanks!

  • Love that last paragraph. Especially since I had been holding myself to be honest with myself and others for a long time. But yesterday I finally had the courage to speak up my mind about what I really want to do. Wow, that was such a big relief. And I was like "Why didn't I do this earlier? Shouldn't have to deal with all the stresses I got all this time." HA. Lesson learned!

  • I needed your encouragement this week. Not knowing how to make my blog look like I want because of things I've yet to learn is keeping me back from collaborating with more people and truly going after what I want to do. But i'm determined to do the best work I can do and hope for the best when sending a lot of e-mails. Thank you again, you're amazing.

  • Well said Corina!!! No regrets!

  • Hell yes!

  • I'm truly getting better at living with this sort of intention. Thanks for the inspiring post!

  • Such a wonderful post to start the day to! Be fearless, y'all

  • chelseaandthecity

    I needed this in a big way Corina. I'm also introverted (until you get to know me) and getting my work out there is the scariest part. I'm definitely going to take a page or two from your book and introduce myself to some dream companies this month… what's to loose? Can't wait to see who your guest posters are but I WILL be happy when you're back to posting!

  • Celestine | Fernaly

    Everything you just wrote is so true! To be noticed, you need to make yourself known first. Whether it's commenting, emailing, tweeting or whatever it is, make the first move! The worst that can happen is nothing. And with that said, the best thing that can happen is a budding relationship of work, friendship or both 🙂

  • This is such spot on advice + love this quote! Thank you for the positive reminder 🙂

  • Camilla Bracioli

    What a great post Corina! I'm going through a phase like this and it is still difficult to release me, but their texts and some others has helped me to make this better. Thanks 🙂

  • I know what you mean when you talked about the postponing of the emails. You create this pressured situation in your mind and it turns you off that you simply don't wanna face it, when in reality there's never anything much to it. From a blogger to another blogger, thank you for this post. An encouraging read.

    Much love,

  • Kresh

    Oh I really did need these words right now. I'm going to try and make some big leaps, especially for networking this coming month and I was really struggling just to make small steps in June.

  • misselizawonderland

    Thanks for your encouragement, and for reminding us that we should reach out to be seen!


    Miss Eliza WonDerland

  • I keep telling myself most of these things, trying not to be discouraged and this advice was a really good boost!

  • Virginia

    Thank you for this! It's really helpful to read such encouraging words.

  • Let me know if you still need help with guest posting Corina 😉

  • Miranti

    Your dad's advice is powerful and totally spot-on! xo

  • Hey Corina – this is suuuuper off topic, and I hate to ask, but where did you find the gold leaf texture you used in this graphic? I've been searching high and low for something textured but still smooth for aaages, and am coming up with nada. If you could help me out, I'd appreciate it. Thank you! 🙂